Saturday, July 25, 2020

Fight Fire With Fire

Fight Fire With Fire I received the following question on tumblr the other day: This is a really good question, because it forced me to think and deeply consider why I found MIT so hardand exactly what it is that causes people to buckle under the pressure. I’ve adapted the response I created for tumblr to this post, which I hope will shed some light on the teaching and learning philosophy of MIT, and exactly what makes it this burning furnace that, through a lot of heat and pressure, turns all of its students into steel (see last weeks post for even more fire metaphors!). Recently, this video made by the MIT media lab (which includes Chris Peterson and many others) called “How MIT Learns” was posted to the admissions homepage. I’d encourage you all to watch it if you’re interestedit’s pretty cool, and also touches on a lot of the general reasons as to why MIT is both so difficult and very effective. Then, below, you can read my more specific take on the matter. The reason MIT is so hard is because you are not just given knowledgeâ€"you have to earn it. I’m going to guess that at your high schoolâ€"just as in many high schoolsâ€"the days you spend in class might go something like this: 1. Introduce a specific concept (let’s use integrals as an example). Your teacher talks about integrals for a little bit, maybe where they came from and gives some background on the theory behind them. 2. Work on Examples. Your teacher might do some simple integral problems on the board a couple times, and one of these times they might write a problem and have you solve it in class. 3. Homework. The homework you receive on integrals starts out easy and gradually becomes harder. Generally speaking, the homework will line up with what is taught in class (at least, it should). 4. Tests. The tests might be a bit harder than the homework, but often they still line up pretty well. If you study, there are not usually many surprises. Most people get B’s. Some get A’s. Sometimes a lot get A’s. Some get C’sâ€"and the C people often drop down a class if it happens consistently. In this method, even if your teacher is terrible and you don’t understand the homework, the pace is forced to be slow enough that you can still manage, or work with friends and piece together your bits of knowledge. There should be a reasonably direct correlation between effort and grades. Also, for most high school subjects there’s a lot of information available on the internet, whereas in college, sometimes what we’re studying is basically hot off the academic presses, and so you can’t find much outside information to help you. Of course high school can still be very hardâ€"I thought it was hard. It’s made even more challenging when you’re involved in a lot of outside activities, or you take a lot of AP classes. But still, from the standpoint of an individual class, the material is designed to be doableand this is by no means a bad thing. Its important to train people in how to acquire knowledge, which is the purpose of high school. In fact, (a brief tangent) I’ve always disliked it when college/high school/middle school professors and teachers said things like “WELL, I know your high/middle/elementary school teachers did not teach you blah blah blah and that whole time of your life was basically a waste of time and I’m going to actually teach you things now/get you closer to the “real world”/etc./etc.” This mentality is terrible. Everyone needs different types of education at different levels. I especially never understood why public school teachers said things like that. Being teachers themselves, they should understand the difficulty of their own jobs. To say phrases like that hugely disrespects the teachers that prepared the students before they got into that current teacher’s classrooms. I lose a little respect for teachers or professors who do that. In contrast to high school, here is how MIT teaches, a method many people call “the fire hose”: (^how I feel on the daily) 1. Introduce a General Concept. If you’re supposed to be learning integrals, an MIT professor might start off with the foundation of calculus and talking about summations. In my experience, a lot of the professors really like to tell “stories”, such as “let’s say we have a moving car, and we don’t know how far it’s traveled, but we know it’s velocity…..” and you don’t really know where they are going with this until they explain that the integral of velocity is distance. I like this because it gets you excited. Until you have to do homework. 2. Go over one example. Expectations are higher at MIT. You are expected to do a lot on your own. If you want more examples, you have to read them on your own time. In class, we might do one or two examples, and often the professor will skip a lot of the intermediate steps. Everyone hates the phrase “and the rest is just algebra” or “…and then I’m sure you guys can do the algebra, so in the end the answer is 5?. Sometimes “just algebra” takes me an hour. 3. Collaborate on homework. MIT has one very important philosophy: no competition. What I mean is, if, hypothetically speaking, everyone in a class got an A, then everyone would get an A. There is never a curve or weird grade cutoff thing that works against you, it can only ever work for you. This means everyone is encouraged to work with and help each other all the time. This is important, because if you tried to do everything yourself here, you would be absolutely miserable. My biggest regret this semester is not working with other people on our math homeworkâ€"I really should have done that more. The homework at MIT has a much greater gap with what was taught in class. There might be a few “confidence boosting” problems that are short, and similar to in-class examples, but most of them are completely different. You might have done a velocity/distance integral problem in class, and then all of a sudden all your homework problems are about heat dissipation. The math is the sameâ€"but I’m sure you know how much more confusing things can be when taken out of context. When the math wasn’t all that clear in the first place, it’s exponentially more confusing. You are expected to make the connection between the general concept and the specific problem on your own. The professor does not reveal this connection to you. You MUST ASK FOR HELP from somewhereâ€"TAs, office hours, the professor, your friends. The average set of homework problems here can take anywhere between 4-8 hours, depending on what you yourself are better/worse at (math takes me forever, but physics is usual ly ok). In high school, I think my homework usually took two hours, except for AP Physics C (which was the most college-like high school class I ever took, take it!!). That 4-8 hours is time spent even when you are working with other people. If there’s something you really don’t understand and you are stubbornly working all by yourself, you can work on it for a whole day and end up with not much more than a pool of tears and eraser shavings (definitely have done this a couple times). We need each other to survive at MIT. 4. Exams. ……oh man. On my first math exam in college ever, I failed. I’d never actually failed an exam before. Then my TA was like, “oh, but it was only by a few points” and I was like HOW ARE YOU SO CALM. I was not the number one kid in high school, but here I immediately began to feel like I was at the very bottom, even though I wasn’t. The distribution is different. I think most people get B’s in the end in most classes, but C’s are much more common, and sometimes more the norm in other classes. Getting an A is very hard in most classes. C people are not encouraged to dropâ€"they are considered doing well enough, and if they want to do a little better, they talk to their professors and TAs. This distribution is difficult to get used to. While I’ve talked a lot about the difference between MIT and high school, I think the significantly lower grade distribution is what makes MIT different from other colleges. Some people think, why not just move all the averages up so more people can get B’s and A’s? It might help all the students get better jobs or into better grad schools. The reason is that MIT is designed to keep you uncomfortable. Making the grade distribution so different from other places and especially from high school makes all the students here very uncomfortablemany of us were straight-A types, after all (actually, the fact that I was not a straight-A student helped me adjust a lot). We don’t grow when we are comfortable, because our instincts tell us to stay in our comfort zone. MIT tries its best to make sure there is no comfort zoneâ€"which, even with all this rigor, is still hard to achieve because of some of the geniuses that come here. In the end, your job will really not depend on your GPA. MIT has made sure that everyone knows it does not work on the same grading scale as other places. The only time this becomes a problem is with scholarshipsâ€"but don’t ever let that keep you from taking risks. I myself have a GPA-dependent scholarship, but I didn’t drop any of my classes, because I know that I could appeal to either MIT (for more financial aid) or to my scholarship provider, and they would actually understand, because it really is that hard. In general, I think the high school philosophy is to teach knowledgeâ€"which makes a lot of sense and is very appropriate for high school.  Like I said, I hate it when people discount our previous experiences and education. You need a good knowledge foundation, and that will definitely help you at any college you go to, including MIT. Difficult high schools are difficult because they teach a lot of knowledge in a short time. But MIT’s philosophy is to teach learning. I didn’t understand this at first. I couldn’t understand how we could pay so much tuition to go to classes where professors didn’t teach us anything (well, it felt that way at the time). You have to really learn concepts fully, and you have to reach an understanding of them that only comes from working with the concept in many different contexts on your own. Sometimes, this is not possible for some people in some classesâ€"to be perfectly honest, I still have no idea what’s going on in math. In that case, if you work hard, you can still at least pass the class (get a C) even if you don’t fully understand everything (which is what I’m doing in math ^^”). In other words, if you really, actually learn things at MIT, you can get a B (maybe an A), and if you don’t but you work really hard, you can get a C. You also have multiple classes that are all this level of difficulty. This is another way that I think MIT might be different from other schools. The 4-8 hour problem set time I mentioned is for just one class. You’ll have at least four, and hopefully, you’ll also have, you know, a lifefriends, clubs, music, artall these other things that you like doing but which can also eat your time. On top of all this, despite our “no competition” policy, when it seems like everyone around you is doing just fine, it’s demotivating (although trust me, they’re actually not perfect) another difficulty particular to MIT. This feeling can be more crippling than any of the actual work you have to do, and makes it difficult not to descend into listlessness or panic. Random external problems (family, social drama, getting sick, etc.) take a greater toll on your time, your life, and your grades than they would in high school. I actually get more sleep in college than I did in high schoolâ€"but I also feel like I need sleep more. I cannot survive the extremely dense flood of informationâ€"the fire hoseâ€"that is fired at me in a single day with less than four hours of sleep. I just can’t. So that’s why MIT is so hard. Success is not getting an A here. Success is not even getting a C here. Success is maintaining your mental and emotional stability in the face of this fire hose. You cannot give up. You cannot fall away. No matter how badly you do, you cannot let academics define who you are. You have to keep working, and keep working really hard, no matter how pointless it seems at times. Success here is finding or creating a group of people that support each otherâ€"giving and receiving both academic and emotional/mental support. Don’t ever close yourself off from these people. Success is knowing that it’s okay to feel upsetâ€"but you cannot let being upset consume you. Success here is still making time for the things that make you happy, and separating yourself from your disappointments. Success is failingâ€"and being able to move on. If you are admitted to MIT, it’s because they know that you have fire. The educational system seems to put every effort into extinguishing that fire, and that often feels awful. But actually, you just become really, really good at burning. (if were going to continue with this metaphor thing then MIT students must be like Valyrian steel!) (this gif is from Game of Thrones) (is anyone currently watching season 5? I still need to catch up.)

Friday, May 22, 2020

A Huge Impact of Alexander the Great - Free Essay Example

Sample details Pages: 2 Words: 610 Downloads: 3 Date added: 2019/04/16 Category History Essay Level High school Tags: Alexander The Great Essay Did you like this example? Alexander the Great was born on July 20th, 356 B.C., in Pella, Macedonia. His dad was King Philip II, and his mother Olympias, who was one of Philips eight wives. It was said and encouraged then, that he was the child of something holy. Don’t waste time! Our writers will create an original "A Huge Impact of Alexander the Great" essay for you Create order That everything he would do would be impactful and contain great power. That he was from the gods. His father would be one of the most influential people in his life, making sure that his education was prioritized. That meant being tutored by the infamous Aristotle. Just because his father was gone conquering land and halting revolts, doesnt mean he was absent in making sure his son had the tools he needed to succeed. Having access to such high education gave him knowledge that was influenced with logic, culture, philosophy, music, and more. What Aristotle gave him were lessons he would later use to help him conquer, and take control over empires, all while preserving the unique cultures along the way. Sometime in 336, Alexanders father was assassinated. Alexander was now head of operations. He quickly took control and killed the alleged murderer of his father, and managed to kill major groups that hated him, and his rivals. Traveling south and a few acts of heroism later, he was made generalissimo for the future invasive attack on Asia that he created. He continued to travel and conquer during his reign and was said to be invincible. He forced into the Shipka Pass, destroyed Triballi, made way through the Danube to then separate into the Getae. Continued onward to crush the coalition of Illyrians who made way into his territory. Whilst all of that was happening, gossip spread around that he had died, which set off a revolt and people wanted a new ruler. He hiked 240 miles for 14 days, from modern day Albania, to Thebes. They refused to give up, so he tore their city to the ground, leaving just temples. Six thousand were murdered and the people who lived were sold into slavery. Peo ple were shocked, afraid, and impressed with his perseverance, vigor, and violent actions. Although his opponents left him no choice but to be violent, its rightfully so that he is one of the greatest military leaders of all time. He ruled Macedonia, was a leader of Greece, and conquered the Persian Empire and more. His killings were a necessary means for him to grow his power, but he was tasteful in regards to his respects. He understood the effort needed to be a ruler and recognized that same vigor and love of people in other rulers, including his opponents. Taking the right actions in their burials, making sure the correct cultural traditions and burials were happening, and respecting the loved ones and the followers of those he killed were just some ways he showed his nobility, honor, and thoughtfulness through actions. His ruling was lead through the love of his and others culture, while doing what was needed to. He demonstrated how to be one of the most incredibly successful rulers, while still maintaining dignity, morals, and the respect of his peers and people. After his death, temples and statues were built in his honor. Many of these sites held events to honor Alexanders accomplishments. Alexander was very astute and embraced and integrated his knowledge and techniques from many cultures including; the Egyptians, Greeks, Persian, and Indians and he made them into one. This made his knowledge broader and more encompassing than others. Alexanders legacy was considered far-reaching and profound. Responsible for the destruction of the Persian Empire and more importantly, his conquests led to the spread of Greek culture (Hellenism) across his empire.

Friday, May 8, 2020

Narrative Essay On Snorkeling - 704 Words

Snorkeling Always challenge yourself. Sometimes, when something goes wrong, or is hard at first, thats just because youre doing it wrong. This is a story about my time at the beach in Maui, Hawaii. This story starts with a trip to Costco. Costco. The place where you can get almost anything. Is it a surprise they have one in Hawaii? My brother, my parents and I went to Costco to purchase snorkel gear. Luckily for us the gear was just on the in the front, almost falling off the shelve. We quickly grabbed four pairs and headed to the hotel. As soon as we got there we threw on our bathing suits and painfully, slowly, got on my snorkel gear. The flippers were uncomfortable and I didnt like only breathing through my mouth. I quickly got in,†¦show more content†¦I froze not moving a muscle. It was apparently unaware pair of eyes upon it. Excitedly I pointed to it and raised my head above the water. â€Å"Hey dad† I called. Suddenly I gasped and choked. Seawater filled my mouth. It was salty and horrible, and seeped into my mouth, even when I finally took the mask off to breathe.I quickly put the mask back on, but it didnt help. I felt sick. As we swam back I realized that as long as I dont tip my head back no seawater came into my mouth. I started to calm down and finally breathe. I relaxed, finally. I quickly stopped moving and gestured I wanted to stay here and just watch my surroundings as the waves gently rocked me. I soaked up all the beauty of my part of the coral reef. As it turns out, the place where we had stopped was teaming fish. I went underwater to get a closer look at them. I started excitedly pointing out every Friday and fish that I saw and almost anything that moved. Then I was caught completely unprepared, A shoal of fish rose up from the beneath me for and, second time the day, I froze. the fish were almost an inch from my hand. I thought about reaching out to touch them, then thought better of it. There were so many fish and if you look past them so many different types of coral. Then a shark came up and ate them! just kidding, that never happened. Sorry now continuing. I started to feel horrible, probably from the seawater intake and and again signaled to go back. This

Wednesday, May 6, 2020

The Role of a Guardian Free Essays

Guardianship is a legal relationship between a competent adult and a person over the age of 18 and whose disability causes them to make irrational decisions. The incompetent person is called the ward. The disability may he caused by mental illness, developmental disability, accident, or other causes. We will write a custom essay sample on The Role of a Guardian or any similar topic only for you Order Now A developmental disability or mental illness is not, alone by itself enough reason to call someone incompetent. Even advanced stages of alcoholism is reason enough to find a guardian or some other kind of court intervention in that persons life. Competency has to do with a person’s ability to make an ‘informed decision’, or, with the risk of arm that they may experience due to their inability to provide for themselves or control their business. The court has the right to make the guardian last indefinitely. The only way to end it is to have the court end it. The only way that they do that is where the child reaches the age of majority and then they don’t need a guardian or if the incapacitated person dies. The incapacitated person could also get better and then they wouldn’t need a guardian any more In the relationship between the guardian and the ward, the guardian is given the right to make decisions on behalf of the person with a disability. When a guardian is appointed, the ourt gives the guardian the authority to exercise certain legal rights in the wards best interest. The courts, when giving rights to a guardian, take them away from the ward. Because guardianship involves such a serious deprivation of rights and dignity, the law requires that guardianship be executed only when other, less restrictive alternatives have proven not to work. If less restrictive forms of protection are not enough to protect a person from the risk of harm, then guardianship should be sought on behalf of the incapacitated person. A guardian’s authority is limited to those areas of decision making for which there is vidence to indicate that a person is incapacitated. Some incapacitated people are able to make responsible decisions in some, but not all, areas of their lives. In these situations guardianship may be limited by the court to only those areas in which the incapacitated person is unable to make responsible decisions. Some individuals require a guardian who has responsibility for both the person and the estate. The primary responsibility of the guardian with duties pertaining to the ward is to provide consent for issues such as medical treatment and living situation. A uardian of the estate is responsible for managing some or all of the property and/or income of There are three different kinds of guardianship. The first kind is the most common type and that is plenary guardianship. Plenary guardianship or complete guardianship is when the ward has very little capacity and the guardian makes all the important decisions. People found to be totally without capacity or understanding to make personal decisions or manage financial affairs, are given plenary guardians. In determining a need for person guardianship, two prominent issues are medical decision making and residential placement. If a person is unable to give informed medical consent or is unable to live independently in an appropriate residence, person guardianship should be Estate guardianship is necessary where a person, due to some disability, cannot manage financial affairs. However, courts rarely appoint plenary estate guardians where estate assets are minimal. Bill paying assistance and money management assistance programs should also be considered before you seek an estate guardian. Small estate amounts can be collected and disbursed, without resort to estate administration. Some courts encourage the use of small estate ffidavits and court-supervised deposits of wards’ funds as alternatives to estate guardianship. However, as stated before, many judges rarely appoint estate guardians in small or minimal Perhaps the least understood and least used form of guardianship applies where a person lacks some, but not all of the capacity to make personal decisions or handle an estate, the appointment of a limited guardian is not a finding of legal incompetence. Limited guardianship is intended to be less severe and more individualized than plenary guardianship. Although guardianship is supposed to be used only to the extent necessary by a person’s ctual mental, physical and social limitations, courts tend to create plenary guardianship rather than limited guardianship, even where limited guardianship may arguably be more appropriate. One reason for the bias toward plenary guardianship is that the creation of an appropriate limited guardianship is complicated when compared to plenary guardianship. A physician must clearly state between things a person can and cannot do and must clearly describe these things to the court. The court must then determine which of these rights will be taken from the person with disability, considering the consequences for each. The limited guardianship must be understandable to the guardian, ward and other parties that may depend on the document. Not all guardianship practitioners, medical practitioners and courts are able to make an appropriate, The following are some better alternatives, which should be considered before pursuing guardianship. Representative or Protective Payee is a person who is appointed to manage Social Security, Veterans’ Administration, Retirement, Welfare Assistance or other state or Federal benefits or entitlement program payments on behalf of an individual. Conservatorship is a oluntary proceeding in which a person (the conservatee) asks the Court to appoint a specific individual (the conservator) to manage his or her estate. The court must find the ward incapable of managing his or her financial affairs, but capable of making the decision to have a conservator appointed to do so these actions. Power of Attorney is a contract between two individuals where one party gives to the other the authority to make any number of decisions (e. g. medical, placement, financial) on his or her behalf. The person giving the power of attorney must be mentally competent to enter into the contract as learned in this class. If the contract is made and the six essential elements of a contract are met, the power of attorney remains in effect even if the principal becomes mentally incapacitated. Here is a case where some kind of guardianship or another court related act would have to take place. A person with Alzheimer’s disease often loses all short-term memory and gradually loses even long-term memory. That person cannot make responsible decisions such as remembering to take medication or remembering to pay bills. If that person did not execute a power of attorney while he or she still had the legal capacity to do so, the only way for a family ember to take over bill payments or seek medical assistance for the disabled person is to execute a guardianship through court intervention. In conclusion there are very many things you have to consider before you try to become a legal guardian. You must first think of what is in the best interests of the ward. Then, if you can, you should try to find some better, less restricting options, for him or her. Being a guardian to a child or a mentally disabled person is a big responsibility and should not be taken lightly. There are businesses and law firms, which can help you, research and become a guardian. 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Monday, April 27, 2020

Unemployment and People free essay sample

Since the dawn of human history, individual needs have been prioritized by every human being. These individual needs can be met by proper sources of employment. After the transformation of the world from a feudal to an industrial society, the needs of an individual have risen sharply, giving due importance to finance. In Pakistan, due to gigantic rise in population, individual finances have been disturbed a lot. This is because of rising unemployment. According to Samuelson: â€Å"Unemployment occurs if there are qualified workers who would be willing to work at prevailing wages but cannot find jobs. Unemployment Situation in Pakistan: According to Economic Survey of 2010-11, population of Pakistan is 177. 1 million. Total labor force is about 54. 92 million out of which 51. 87 million is employed and remaining 3. 05 million is unemployed. Rate of male unemployment is 5. 6 % and female unemployment is Causes of Unemployment Every year many new graduates are added into the labor forc e but few of them get very good jobs; some others get a reasonable one but many keep on looking for jobs for a long time. We will write a custom essay sample on Unemployment and People or any similar topic specifically for you Do Not WasteYour Time HIRE WRITER Only 13.90 / page There can be a number of reasons for young men to be unemployed. A lack of realistic approach is one of the reasons of being unemployed. Youth have their dreams and some are ambitious too. Their ambitious nature leads them to dream about very unrealistic goals in life. Degree holder youth usually aspire for a white collar job in a big company such as in a multinational. Their objective is to get a high salary. But when they don’t get such a job they keep on waiting for one and hence not only waste their time but also the opportunities to get some other low salary jobs. Illiteracy Literacy Illiteracy and literacy both are the causes of unemployment in Pakistan. Due to illiteracy people are not able to work and they remain unemployed. On the other hand number of educated is increasing annually but government is unable to create employment opportunities e. g. , students of B. Com. are increasing at very fast speed but they cannot find jobs and admissions for higher education. Rate of illiteracy in Pakistan is 42. 3 %. As in the backward areas of country, the education facilities are not available. Only 2. 7% of total GDP of the country is spent on Education. Even though there are more than 8000 ghost schools in Sindh province, which are not working but are under the control of local landlords. Government schools are unable to provide quality education due to imperfect syllabus, improper education policies, and inefficient teachers. That’s why the students are unable to build their strong base through education. Seasonal Variation There is seasonal unemployment in Pakistan. Seasonal unemployment exists especially in industrial sectors. For example, sugar industries and ice factories create seasonal unemployment. People only work for certain part of the year and mostly remain unemployed for remaining part of the year. Unskilled labor Most of the businessmen in Pakistan are illiterate, ill-trained and unskilled. They think that if they employ more persons they will have to pay more and their profit will decline. These unskilled businessmen cause nepotism and favoritism. It means selection according to relation not according to ability. Here deserving candidates do not get jobs and remain unemployed or under employed. High Population Growth Rate The population of Pakistan is increasing at a rate of 2. 1 %. Due to this high rate about two million people enter into the labor market each year. Such huge labor force cannot be provided jobs due to backward economic condition. People are so poor and illiterate that they cannot differentiate between wright and wrong. Money is there problem. They cannot think of sending their children to school at proper age. People have no regrets on having more children. People are not motivated and are deprived of basic necessities so they cannot think beyond that. High Age of Retirement The higher age of retirement in government sector has closed the employment opportunities for the young, literate and trained person. In Pakistan retirement age is 60 years. Lack of Technical and Professional Education Like the absence of other educational services, there are very few and inefficient institutes for professional training in the country, especially in the rural areas. It is the fact that most of the youth are not properly guided and motivated to choose their proper future career. The students choose the career which does not befit their personality and nature. Thus leading to failure in professional life and they cannot find suitable jobs and if they find one, they cannot deal with the challenges of the job. Technical, professional and vocational institutions are limited in number.

Thursday, March 19, 2020

Patricia Hearst essays

Patricia Hearst essays Born into a wealthy and well- known family Patricia Hearst had luxuries that many kids never grow up with. She lived in a mansion and grew up in catholic schools. Her Parents Randolph and Catherine Hearst were strict with their five daughters. As Patty grew up she became more distant from her parents and decided to go to a public high school. There is where she met Steven Weed; he was a young teacher who had just graduated from Princeton University. He became her math tutor, but not long after their relationship turned intimate. Although she was only 17 and he was 23, they continued with their secret relationship. ( internet ) Their relationship continued into college where she went to Menlo College. Patty left to Europe for a summer and, shortly after her return she got engaged to Weed. Her parents did not approve of her choice but there was nothing they can do to stop her. She moved in with Weed at an apartment in Berkeley, California. On February 4, 1974, the doorbell rang at their apartment. Weed went to open the door. There he saw a nervous women who claimed to have backed her car into another car in the driveway, and needed to use their phone. He had no time to answer before two armed men pushed their way in the door. ( Alexander 5) Weed was left on the floor severely beaten. The abductors dragged Patricia out the apartment and forced her into the trunk of their car. Her screams attracted the attention of her neighbors but they were too scared to do anything. She rode in the trunk for a few minutes and then was switched to the floor of a white station wagon a few blocks away. From there she was taken to the hide out witch turned out to be her prison. Her abductors turned out to be the Symbionese Liberation Army, who was led by ex-convict Donald Defreeze, known as Cinque Mtume. This group took responsibility for the assassination of Marcus Foster, an Oakland school superintendent. Joe Ramiro and Russell L...

Tuesday, March 3, 2020

How To Make Friends Influence People at Work

How To Make Friends Influence People at Work It’s important to have friends and to be the kind of person people want to be friends with. It’s arguably even more important to make friends among your coworkers. First of all, work is a great place to make adult friends after college. And it’s also a great way to become a part of the company culture. You might even start to look forward to going to work every day. Here are 10  tips on how to make more friends and influence people in the workplace and in life:1. Use NamesSaying people’s names is easy, and if you work it into your normal speaking patters, it will  really make an impact. People love hearing their own names. It’s like you’re personalizing generic small talk with every use.2. Don’t be MercenaryDon’t make friends with everyone, and don’t make friends with people because you want to get something out of them. Ulterior motives won’t serve you in the long run. Put your effort and energy into people yo u would want to socialize with outside of work. And don’t go too gung-ho too fast or you’ll scare potential buddies off with your over exuberance.3. Be YourselfYou don’t want to get into a situation where you’re afraid to befriend certain colleagues on certain social media platforms. Keep it consistent. Have a policy and stick with it. The easiest thing? Just be yourself. At the office, at home, and across your social media profiles. Don’t say anything online you wouldn’t be comfortable having all of your friends see.4. Help PeopleNobody likes the person in the office who refuses to help her coworker. Try to say yes and help people as often as you can without sacrificing too much of your own work or time. It’s a great way to gain and express loyalty.5. Don’t be ObnoxiousDon’t be the loud one everyone cranes their necks out of their cubicles to glare at. Don’t bring in stinky lunches and microwave their stench thro ughout the office. Don’t talk over people or shut down their ideas without listening. In short, don’t be a jerk. This simple strategy will actually make the rest surprisingly easy.6. ParticipateIf a group of your coworkers is standing around making small talk, join in! If there’s a birthday card in circulation or a joint gift to go in on, get involved! Just as you wouldn’t want to turn down opportunities to build your professional network, don’t turn down opportunities to make friends. Happy hour? Yes please.7. Don’t be NegativeCursing and complaining can be alienating at best, and a huge turn off at worst. Try to stay composed and positive. Be the person people look to when they need a dose of the bright side, not someone people avoid when they’re not feeling up to snuff.8. Set BoundariesMaking friends with your coworkers does not mean inviting them to be your bosom buddies right away. Don’t feel the need to invite people to y our home or family functions too soon. That can wait until you’ve developed a true intimacy. Keep it light and social at first.9. Resolve ConflictsDon’t let arguments or resentments simmer and fester underneath your relationships. Remember, you can’t just leave your quibbles at home- these friends are people you also have to work with. Be super forthright in resolving conflicts as they come up, before they become major issues that might get in the way of work or your relationship.10. Be InclusiveDon’t just cherry pick the people you like most. Sure it’s okay to be closer to the people with whom you have most in common- you don’t have to be everyone’s friend to the same degree. But don’t be the jerk that invites everyone except one or a few people out for drinks on a Friday night. Be inclusive. Choose kindness. Otherwise you might lose friends rather than make more of them.